I believe in every relationship, both of you have to have at least one similar interest. Be it the love for food, similar hobby, practice the same sports or even simple as love to read.
Similarity is very important in a relationship. Without the similarity, you can’t find a common ground to agree on. I always go against the Yin and Yang concept and the opposites attract concept. The one that says you compliment each other by being the different person than him/her. Yes there should be some compliment, but a couple can never be the total opposite character of his/her other half.
Nothing will go wrong during the dating stage. The romantic stage is where both parties are blinded by the overly heated love atmosphere. But what happens when you argue as time pass? Two different people with different thoughts, opinions and characters will have endless argument. It is during this time that your common ground, similar interest that is going to bring you to back to reality.
I was reading this post from Inc.com and somehow it got me reflect my own past.
About 2 years ago, something huge happened to my life. Well it's not that huge because it's a lie and fake story after all. But it did impact me very hard. I was reluctant to tell people around me cos I won't want people to judge and start spreading news that I was crazy and etcetera. So I only told the whole story to friends who are closed and involved during that period of magical dreamy story.
I'm not sure if I am already healed and let go off that story. I was pissed off when I realised it was a total lie. I mean, how can someone drafted a story so well and made me believe in it through my heart and soul and in the end, crash and burn just like that. Gone and poof with the wind!
I started avoiding people. Friends, acquaintances, colleagues and families. I was ashamed and embarrassed by my own action. I didn't want to meet people. I was mad and somehow scared to bump into that person…
Friends. They come and go. Everyone cross path with you for a reason. Either to be your lifelong dependable friend or just to teach you a lesson. Some come and go as quick as the quicksand. Some stayed on for couple of months and take their departure once the mission completes. While some, is just a phone call away since day one.
So how do you know who belongs to which category?
The answer is, you don't.
Living for 30 years, having friends for as long as 20 years, I realised that it is all about the effort. The phrase, 'It takes two to tango' is so accurate that it can even predict the rainy and sunny days. What kind of effort are we talking about here? We're talking about the effort to make friend(s) and keep up the effort to make that friendship last with even the smallest step.
Have you ever thought about the effort you make? What did you do to keep that friendship? Or the effort your friend(s) made to meet up, to call, or merely just a simple text to say 'Hi…